From Kids: What Can Parents Do To Connect? Part 2 of 3

I asked my kids the other day, "What can parents do to connect with kids?" I have three kids, so I got three pretty different answers. This is part 2 of 3.

In part 1 of this blog post, we talked about spending alone time with your child. Read the full part 1 post here

Kid Suggestion #2:

One of my daughters said, "How about playing games that are about the person...to see how well you know them and learn more about them?"

I think that is a pretty awesome idea! You combine a fun game with learning more about folks in your family? What could be better?

Now, this blog is all about practical, actionable relationship advice. So, my first question back to my daughter was "tell me more about that." I wanted to know more and get clarity on what a game like that would look like and how it would work.

The best way to explain it is with an example. Either one-on-one or with your entire family, you can take turns asking a question to the group, such as "Who knows where I was born?" or "What's the name of my favorite stuffed animal?". Then people go around the room and take turns guessing. The person who guesses correctly gets to ask the next question, or you could just rotate it. And since this isn't a competition, there is no need to keep score or declare a winner. The entire family wins!

Since we are talking about relationships here, another key suggestion for connecting here is to take the suggestion of your kids when you ask them for their ideas. When you take their suggestion, instead of saying no or changing it, you are encouraging them to share more in the future which will always pay dividends in your relationship.

So, in order to practice what I preach here, I said..."Great idea...let's play that during dinner tonight!"...and we did! It was a lot of fun. I learned who my daughter's first kiss was, who their current BFF is, why my wife quit her first job, etc.

Give this game a try in your family tonight and come back and share your comments here on how it went. Also, here is list of more games to play together.

Continue on to Part 3 of 3 here...and if you have your own suggestions, please leave them in the comments. Ask your own kids...and share what they suggest here too!


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